Just read this great article from Chuck Swindoll...
"Imagine the scene: James and John approached Jesus one day...“We don’t want to be the center of Your kingdom, that’s Your place, but we want to sit right beside You, one on Your left and the other on Your right.”
The other disciples who heard this exchange were ticked off! The selfishness of James and John in wanting to be first was more than the others could stand.
That’s when Jesus gathered all the disciples and talked to them about being servants...
'You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. But among you it will be different. Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. (Mark 10:42–44)
Ready for a little advice? Work on servanthood—genuine humility—and you’ll find people respecting you. Don't worry about being seen, heard, quoted, but give and serve others.
One of our granddaughters returned from camp one year wearing a button that illustrates this beautifully. It read: 'I’M THIRD.' When asked about it, I loved her reply...'Well, Jesus is always first, others are second, and I’m always third.'
Remember that phrase in our narcissistic culture—“I’m third.” No matter how much money you make, what your title is, how influential you may become, or how many people know your name or applaud you--keep reminding yourself, 'I’m third.'"